Does the busyness of life sometimes make you forget to appreciate your partner? Do you assess your marriage by how “happy” it makes you? How do you measure what makes a “good” marriage?
In this podcast episode, Ron and Lexie Lee speak about what makes a good marriage.
In this Podcast:
- Intentionally appreciate your partner
- Root out (harmful) competition
- Is happiness your yardstick?
Intentionally appreciate your partner
As life gets busy, you can forget to say “thank you” or “I care for you” amongst all the hundreds of to-do lists and the busyness of running a family and a business.
You may take your partner for granted if you do not intentionally try to appreciate them and affirm them.
You [should always be] polite and kind, but really, it’s about being grateful for your partner and not taking them for granted.
Lexie Lee
Your partner has decided to spend the intimate aspects of their life with you and to share their experiences and memories with you.
Affirm them and express an attitude of genuine gratitude for them and their loving presence in your life.
If you are feeling thankful for your relationship and where you’re at within it then you’re going to feel more bonded to your partner because you feel like what you’re doing has effort and is appreciated.
Ron Lee
Root out (harmful) competition
This is a common problem in many marriages. Avoid keeping score with your partner, and competing with them in a demeaning or aggressive way.
Encourage each another to be the best versions of yourselves instead of feeling like you have to be better than them.
Is happiness your yardstick?
Are you measuring the “goodness” of your marriage by its “happiness”? Even though many people want to be happy, happiness is not the purpose of life.
If you strive to only be happy, then you will feel like you have failed if you feel any other way, and the same goes for a marriage.
It’s [about] perspective, right? We’re going to go through seasons where we don’t feel good, where we don’t feel happy. Does that mean that it’s not a good marriage?
Lexie Lee
There will be difficult moments that need to be worked through, but because they are a given, they are not failures, they are aspects just like happiness is.
Happiness will come and go, so rather strive for wholeness and appreciation over just happiness.
Resources Mentioned and Useful Links
Intentionality and Self-care: It is okay to say “no” – Ep 16
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We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don’t follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.
We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books. We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy. And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together. When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can’t mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey? We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court. Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.